• $50.00 – Online Zoom
    plus dana (offered at the end of the retreat) to the teacher and to Heartwood. You can read more about the practice of dana here.

Location: Zoom

Address: 159 Osceola Rd Hendersonville, NC 28739


Cancellation Policy: As a dana-based, volunteer-based center, we are unable to provide refunds. At this time, all retreats are non-refundable. We understand that emergency circumstances arise. In this case, please submit in writing to explain the nature of the emergency circumstances to the retreat manager at retreat@heartwoodrefuge.org to secure a credit for future Heartwood offerings.

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Self-Mettā: A Foundational Practice for the Brahmavihārās (Zoom Retreat EST)

with Mary Aubry

December 12 - 13, 2020

The practice of lovingkindness, or mettā in Pali, is a learned practice.  For some meditators, it can take years to develop without specific instruction.  During our time together, we will give focused attention to the practice of sending mettā to ourselves in an embodied way as a foundational practice. A regular practice of embodied self-mettā can enhance one’s overall sense of well-being with residual benefits that last longer than the sitting period.  Additionally, embodied self-mettā is a useful practice during difficult times when it transforms into self-compassion.  During the second day of the retreat, we will use embodied self-mettā as a cornerstone for building a practice of radiating outwards in all directions to all beings all four of the brahmavihārās of mettā, compassion, muditā, and equanimity, as taught by the Buddha to the Kālamās in sutta 65 in book Three of the Numerical Discourses of the Pali Cannon.

Proposed Schedule:

Self Metta Schedule


Mary Aubry
Mary Aubry began meditating in the Vipassana tradition and attending insight meditation retreats in 1993. In 2009, she started teaching meditation classes for the Insight Meditation Community of Washington, D.C. and in 2012, graduated from the Community Dharma Leadership program co-sponsored by the Spirit Rock Meditation Center and the Insight Meditation Society.  In 2014, Tara Brach authorized Mary to teach insight meditation retreats, and in 2016 Leigh Brasington authorized her to teach jhana retreats. Other than Tara and Leigh, her primary teachers have included Joseph Goldstein, Bhikkhu Analayo, and Rodney Smith. In 2014-15, Mary co-taught a year-long program for IMCW…
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